I started reading Not Your Mother's Rules last night and I think I am really getting an intrinsic understanding of it all, now it is just a matter of not being impulsive and resisting temptation. I would like to know if I have screwed up my current crush, possibility for good?? I was reading in Not Your Mother's Rules that if you make the mistake of talking to/emailing a guy first, you will never know if you were his type. I messaged the guy first on a dating site - does that mean that the relationship would be destined to fail and it is just a matter of when? Or is there a way to back off, create some polarity and purge any bad habits that have been formed by the mistakes that I have made asap? I think you will say to just do the Rules strictly, which of course I plan to make as big of an effort as I can muster, but will the "relationship" always be tainted?
I met a guy through an online dating app about a month ago. It turned out he lived just under 3 hours away in Seattle. We hit it off immediately! Soon after we were talking everyday about everything and nothing was off the table. Due to some personal issues he couldn't come into Canada so we arranged for me to go to him. My rationalization was that, by the time I actually got to see him we would have been talking for just under a month via, text and phone and Facebook. Our phone conversations always lasted more than an hour to even up to 4 hours some nights. So I bought a ticket and he offered to pay 100 towards my travels in order for me to stay an extra night.
I read your suggestions about broadening my circle to meet people. But my friends don't have single men friends they would set me up with. My work and social life doesn't bring me into contact with single men my age either. I'm in my mid thirties. And most of my interests and hobbies don't seem to attract men to them, so I'm really stuck. I was thinking about online dating. How do I use the rules as a woman on a dating site? How do I employ this mysterious feminine polarity you speak of online? Should I sit back and wait for them to come to me? How much active connecting should I do online?
My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for a little over 2 months and recently he seemed to notice that I always let him call me. I think it's kind of funny that I've maybe called him once in all the time that he has known me, and he's only noticed now, but that's beside the point :)
I met a man on a dating site, he asked me for a date, which we had to plan pretty far in advance because he lives kind of far away. As it turned out, he had to cancel our coffee date because he couldn't make it over, and then I had to go away for the weekend. Before I left, when we were trying to decide on a new rendez-vous, he said to text him when I'm home and up for a visit. Not ideal, but fine.
I've just read The Rules Book for the first time and I have a bone to pick. How are we as women supposed to balance expressing the full range of our emotions and be authentic yet in compliance with "The Rules" telling us that we should act as though we were "born happy"?
My boyfriend and I made plans on Sunday to hang out at his place on Wednesday night, but now I haven't heard from him for 2 days since. He usually calls every day or other day or so, and it bothers me that he hasn't called.