I've become good friends with a girl (6yrs younger than me, she's mid 20s I'm early 30s) who I play hockey with on a co-ed team. I've know her for 2 years and in that time we've enjoyed each other's company as good friends both on and off the ice. She has a great group of girlfriends (and a lot of guy friends too through playing other sports), and I'm privileged to be considered on of her closer good guy friends.
I am curious about someone who works at a place I go fairly frequently. My first question is that I'm not sure if the curiosity has a romantic component or not and I want to know if it is bad policy to pursue her, even if I'm not sure I'd want to date her.
My husband and I have been married 10 years this year and I have had nothing but trouble from his side of the family virtually the whole time. It all started about 6 months after my husband and I got married when his mother cheated on his father and then decided to get a divorce. We had just had our first baby and were busy dealing with being a newly married couple with a newborn. Both my husbands parents put pressure on us for emotional support which we found hard to give. When we couldn’t support them they blamed me. My husband at that stage found it hard to say no to his parents so when an issue arose I had to ask him to deal with them which he struggled with and I ended up doing it.
The non-perpetuation of patriarchal shite leads me to believe that I should always ask before making physical advances. There used to be a subtle art I learned in reading cues such that I could know when to touch a cheek, or deftly move in for a dashing first kiss. But now there is the buzz kill of asking. Any thoughts on sexifying this process?