living together

My boyfriend’s moodiness is effecting me negatively

When my partner is happy and well, I am over the moon with joy. When my partner is sad or depressed or in pain, I am sick with emotional knots in my stomach and grumpiness. Is this unhealthy to let the person I love affect me so much? I would love to just continue on being happy when he isn't, but it is something I find extremely challenging. I want to hold space for my partner to feel whatever he needs to go through, and be there to support him- but I seem to just ache with whatever he is going through as if i'm feeling it too. Help.

Shouldn’t love be easy?

My man and I have been together for almost 4 years. We long ago crossed the boyfriend/girlfriend/dating stage and are long term partners. Lately I've been feeling the magic is gone...it feels less connected, less attracted, less exciting. Do you think this is just part if normal settling in; a shifting in dynamic that is inevitable? Or a sign that its not working out?

My boyfriend can’t accept a complement

A couple of years ago my boyfriend and I did the quiz on Love Languages and found out that he really likes words of affirmation, physical touch, and quality time, and that I really like physical touch, gifts and acts of service. For the most part, it has really been helpful for us to express our love to each other so that the other person can hear it.

Do I love him enough?

My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. So far things have been great; we've had normal couple issues but nothing too crazy. Over the past couple of days, though, he has been saying 'I love you', 'I'm so lucky to have you' and 'you are beautiful' about four hundred percent more than he usually does and I'm feeling really guilty that I don't seem to feel it as much as he does.

He texts instead of calls

I have been in a committed relationship with a man for a few years now. Things are more or less amazing, except for the odd little thing now and then. Right now I'm beating myself up a bit because when he goes away for work (a few times a year for a few weeks) he doesn't communicate very well. When he first gets there, he hardly writes or calls at all, then we have one or two good phone conversations and by the end he resorts to texting instead of actually calling me... we actually have an entire conversation before bed over text!

I want to change but my partner doesn’t

I'm in a relationship, living with my partner and I enjoy the relationship because we don't have expectations of each other. I was in a relationship before where my partner had a lot of expectations of me to be something that I wasn't or more than I was and it felt like what I was wasn't good enough.

How do I stay connected to my partner during a fight?

After some really BAD relationships, I have finally met a loving, caring man who I trust and want to be with. But... he is human (and so am I), and sometimes we have fights...Nothing too bad, just raised voices, getting angry, tension etc. We do usually end up talking, trying to understand each other, and then it goes back to normal. However while the tension and raised voices are high, my mind tends to go to all sorts of scenarios that want to break the relationship. I'm sure it's fear, and being uncomfortable with confrontations, however knowing that still doesn't help me with wanting to run.

He’d rather read the news

My boyfriend and I have been living together for a little while now, and I've noticed a change in him. When he used to spend then night, or I would spend the night at his place, we would eat breakfast together, talk about what we were going to do that day and share a few sweet kisses as we watched the day brighten. He would even wait for my slower breakfast to be ready before he would pour the milk in his cereal to facilitate breakfast being ready at the same time!