My in-laws think I brainwashed my husband

My husband and I have been married 10 years this year and I have had nothing but trouble from his side of the family virtually the whole time. It all started about 6 months after my husband and I got married when his mother cheated on his father and then decided to get a divorce. We had just had our first baby and were busy dealing with being a newly married couple with a newborn. Both my husbands parents put pressure on us for emotional support which we found hard to give. When we couldn’t support them they blamed me. My husband at that stage found it hard to say no to his parents so when an issue arose I had to ask him to deal with them which he struggled with and I ended up doing it.

My mother-in-law blames me!

My husband and I have been married a little over a year now, and we live in BC. His mother lives in Saskatchewan, and we visit for long periods of time in the summer to help out on their farm. I have heard her refer to me more than once as 'princess' or 'high-maintenance' behind my back. I believe she feels this way because I am not as Type A as she is. She is constantly going, from the second she wakes up, she prides herself in having lists going, and things getting accomplished around her. I am much more calm, slow and steady. I value my work and my well-being along the way.