I have been reading up on the concept of Caretaking vs Caregiving and I am cartaking for an individual in my family. It has become extremely exhausting for me and it has made me dread talking to this family member. I realize that I am responsible for the caretaking and that I need to stop. Since this family member and I are very close, how can I change the caretaking into caregiving so that we can have a healthier and more meaningful relationship?
My boyfriend and I have been living together for a little while now, and I've noticed a change in him. When he used to spend then night, or I would spend the night at his place, we would eat breakfast together, talk about what we were going to do that day and share a few sweet kisses as we watched the day brighten. He would even wait for my slower breakfast to be ready before he would pour the milk in his cereal to facilitate breakfast being ready at the same time!
I seem to want to spend more time around my boyfriend than he of me. He makes the effort to spend quality time together, I just seem to want much more of that time. When I brought it up today he said he had his "own scene to attend to", which I totally get intellectually. However, my heart is screaming that he spends more time with me, and I notice I get sad when he is getting ready to leave. It is starting to make our partings a bit awkward and not at all like the normal energetics of our relationship. Is there anything I can do to tone down or control these feelings so I'm not so melancholic and grumpy every time he is getting ready to go home?