I am a 32 year old man in Victoria, BC and I finally got a date with a woman I really like, but I have no idea where to take her. Any thoughts?
–First Timer (♂ Victoria)
Thanks for writing in, these are some thoughts I’ve been meaning to write down for a while! Before I jump in, I want to mention a little about what those first dates are for:
I recommend that first dates last around 2 hours, and that you change venues two or three times. Ideally, you would start in a fairly public, open space, and move toward a venue that is more confined and intimate as you feel closer emotionally. Planning a date like this gives you a solid plan, things to talk about, a variety of situations in which to observe one another, lots of memories and hopefully an opportunity to show off your masculine prowess. So, go ahead and pick one activity from each list.
Appetizer (short time period, public venue, side by side time)
- Beverage/Ice cream and a walk.
- One on One sport (equipment required) Play a quick game of 21 at the park, a little game of catch on the grass, pool at a pool hall, darts at the bar, batting cage, driving range etc.
- Skipping rocks on the water (if you can’t skip rocks I recommend throwing the rocks high and rating them like olympic divers)
- Quick tour of one of the cities gardens or nature reserves.
- Appetizer. Literally get an appy at one restaurant, entree at the next, dessert at the next.
- Things with animals – feeding birds, petting zoo, bird sanctuary, dog park (with your dog) etc.
Entrée (Longer time period, slightly more intimate, potentially some face to face time)
- Private couples dance lesson.
- Local ghost walk or tour of city.
- Live music.
- Entree. New restaurant, new memory!
- Hike, short kayak ride, bike ride, rock climbing, ice skating, swimming
- Amusement Park
- Mini Golf
- Go Karting
- Community theatre, sports match, farmers market
Dessert (short time period, intimate venue, snuggle opportunity)
- Beverage/Iceream and a walk.
- Dessert at another restaurant.
- A walk in the rain under a giant umbrella.
- Sitting somewhere with a view.
- People watching in a cafe
- Laying on a blanket on a beach/bluff or meadow.
Another great thing about the multi-venue date is that if you come to the conclusion that you aren’t compatible, you have several opportunities to bail on the date without being awkward (not recommended for the ‘3 courses, 3 restaurants’ idea).
Feel free to add to the list in the comments, and let me know how your dates go!