I’m a man in my early 30s and I’ve heard that Victoria is a difficult place to meet women. Now that I’ve arrived, it feels like everyone is playing hide and go seek. How do I avoid being that kid who never gets found?
–Marco (♂ Victoria)
I too have heard that it is difficult to meet people in Victoria, but it hasn’t been my experience. Whether you fancy gamers or hipsters on fixies, the easiest way to meet people with the same interests as you is to get involved in a group of people doing what you enjoy. And even if you don’t meet her there, you might meet the person who will introduce you! But, it falls on you to get yourself out there though! Here are some of my suggestions:
- Do it in public whenever possible… that’s right, if you are reading or eating or working, take your book, meal, computer to a coffee shop, the beach or a park where there are people around to interact with. Go for walks, borrow a friend’s dog, go to dinner parties, or hold potlucks and ask your friends to bring their friends.
- Enjoy permaculture, growing your own food or organic gardening? Check out Southern Vancouver Island Permablitz Network – a place where you can meet people interested in making friends and creating community through helping each other grow food. Take workshops through Permaculture BC then grab some food after with the crew, if anything, you’ll make great friends!
- Love being on the water? Determined to develop your sea legs? Get involved with the Victoria Canoe and Kayak Club
- Tongue Tied? Try a new language! La Société Francophone de Victoria, Victoria Italian Society, The Chinese Association of Victoria, The Victoria Nikkei Cultural Society. All teach language classes and hold special events to celebrate cultural diversity in Victoria
- Always wanted to dance? Try the Victoria Ballroom Dance Society, or Red Hot Swing: Victoria’s Swing Dance Connection (I’ve danced with Red Hot Swing, intensely fun and loads of great folks from beginner to advanced. Both schools teach classes and hold Dances and other events to keep your toes groovin’.
- Musically Inclined? Check out the Victoria Fiddle Society, The West Shore Community Concert Band, The Greater Victoria Concert Band The Good News Choir, who are always looking for new members.
- Enjoy working and playing at the same time? Try volunteering at one of Victoria’s many festivals: The Victoria Film Festival, The Victoria Highland Games & Celtic Festival Victoria Blues Bash and Victoria Jazz Fests, FolkWest, Victoria Pride Parade and Victoria Ska Fest to name a few.
- Not the type to get out and get active? What about the Humanities Book Club at UVIC? or the Victoria Handweavers & Spinners Guild Take a course at UVIC, Royal Roads, Comosun or the Victoria College of Art.
See! Victoria’s not half bad for a social scene! There are also plenty of gyms, community centers, churches, sports teams/leagues, men’s and women’s groups as well as the ever popular Meet-Up groups in Victoria. Love to hear any of your suggestions in the comments. Now git!